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Bill of Assertive Rights


For some of us, who find it hard to set boundaries and take care of ourselves, the following Bill of Assertive Rights can seem like a shock or eye-opener.

I had some interesting comments on my newsletter last week, where I published these "rights".

One of the comments made me think hard. Christopher (one of my respected mentors) said:

"Excellent letter and I must comment on this matter of “rights”.

The quicker we can move away from this idea of “rights” the better. As soon as you say you have a right to something then what you are automatically implying is that that someone or something might be able to take it away from you. If you look at your list who can take any of those things away from you? You can GIVE them away and that is a very different thing. As soon as you say “I have the right….” Then do you actually believe it? I am not sure you do and then that is when it becomes problematic. Now you have to “defend” yourself. Wars only happen between people who perceive themselves as essentially weak and do not stand in their essential power."

I'd love to hear your thoughts. Scroll to the bottom of the post, fill in your name and share in the conversation!

You have the right ...
  • to be illogical when you make a decision
  • not to explain or justify your behaviour
  • to alone time
  • to ask for what you want
  • to be listened to and taken seriously
  • to ask for more time
  • not to get involved with other people's problems
  • to judge if you are responsible for finding solutions to other people's problems
  • to change your mind
  • to make mistakes - and be responsible for them
  • to say "I don't know"
  • to say "I don't understand"
  • to say "I don't care"
  • to actualize yourself in a field of interest or talent
  • not to be liked by everyone
  • to respect
  • to be independent of the affection or goodwill of others in your relationship with them
  • to say "no" without feeling guilty


Of course, the last one is my favourite - you know why!

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